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2.25.2010

article repost: Dreams continue, even after retirement

I am reposting an article written by Gelo Cimagala, one of the very able distributors of Reliv for Business Insight Malaya. Go Gelo! :) 



Dreams continue, even after retirement

BY TRISTAN ANGELO CIMAGALA
Retirement has been good to Sonia Lim, a former trade marketing staffer at a multinational food corporation based in Paranaque. Recently retired at the relatively young age of 50, Lim has found a new passion to fill her time. Instead of the mind-numbing task of sorting through endless paper work she has found the exciting world of Mary Kay. In fact she does not consider herself retired.
"Yung retiree, yun yung nasa bahay talaga," she quips. "Parang nag-shift lang ako (ng work). Hindi pa ako retired."
Lim targets sales of P10,000 a day and employs one or two employees called "beauty consultants" to assist her with her work.
Lim is not alone. There is Oriel Magno, 63 a public relations practitioner by profession but who derives a huge chunk of his income from a company called Reliv.
He was with other networking companies before as a company executive but only with Reliv did he decide to become a distributor.
He narrates his first year with Reliv: "It was all excitement. I was able to get excited distributors...Before one year we earned P1.5 million."
More than the business however, he says he has found relief from his hypertension while his wife no longer suffers from the ill-effects of lupus. All thanks to their product.
Cyril Salvo, 51, was able to send her 7 children through school with the help of her Fuller Life business. "Nakapag-patapos na ako ng mga anak. Mga daily needs, mga gamit ng anak. Naging bread and butter namin (ang Fuller Life)...Pati sa kamag anak, na share ko ang benefit dahil sa direct selling."
She has come to depend on her business for most everything that they need in their daily lives. "Isipin ninyo hindi na ko bumibili ng appliances...lahat yan incentive. Mga rice cooker, electric fans. Halos lahat yata ng gamit namin sa bahay ...galing sa regalo," she says.
Mary Kay, Reliv, and Fuller Life are all multi-level marketing (MLM) companies operating in the country.

The industry

According to the Direct Selling Association of the Philippines (DSAP), the recognized group of MLM companies, there are an estimated 2 million individuals engaged in the practice of face-to-face selling. It does not have a retirement age, and anyone can do business regardless of educational background.
"It’s a great business for someone who has limited capital and wants to enter initially into retailing quality products. Risk is small because there are limits to entry fees. Rewards are great because of the way compensation plans are designed," explains lawyer Jolly Gomez, vice-chairman and in-charge of communications and government affairs of DSAP and also the managing director of Reliv Philippines.
Globally, the industry contributes $114 billion with products spanning food supplements, consumer goods, water, books, apparel and other services. For the Philippines, the industry has grown to P20 billion and is expected to expand despite current difficulties with the economy.
Gomez sees the industry developing further as there is much room for expansion. "This is a steady growth in a population which today is closing in on 90 million. This is one direct seller for every seventy five people. Compare this with the US which has 15 million direct sellers in a population of 300 million or a ratio of 1:20."
Gomez continues: "The Philippines is a market with very few players in the industry. We have only 27 DSA members as compared to 300 in Malaysia. The result is that there are fewer choices but better standards. With the Asean Harmonized Tariff scheme we may see the entry of many new companies from the region co-existing with local direct selling companies."

What exactly is network marketing?

"Direct Selling is face-to-face selling to the consumers through independent distributors or sales people. It is a legitimate marketing medium that is used to sell practically anything," says the DSAP website.
What is even more interesting in this business is the network building and the overrides or royalties one earns from the efforts of these "downlines."
Think of it as working in Human Resources, Marketing, Finance, and Sales in a corporate setting, all rolled into one. The distributor markets and sells the product, collects payment, and recruits people. These people will be trained by the sponsor who in turn will duplicate the system, otherwise there is a risk of losing them from the organization.
Magno relates: "A legitimate network marketing company is work. Your efforts are tied directly to the growth of your organization. It’s hard work but fun. Rewards mo mas malaki.....As you build your organization, once it hits someone who starts to earn lots of money you can’t stop that person if he wants to be successful."
A sponsor or upline then earns additional income through overrides, an additional percentage from the sales or earnings of the individual within his organization.
"Overrides can really pay you for life," declares Magno.
On the other hand, Salvo earns additional income from those she can encourage to re-sell her products by giving additional discounts to them.
"Lahat ng tao gusto kumita... (Sasabihin ko sa kaibigan ko) bibigyan kita ng percentage. Parang nagmu-multiply ang hand mo. I-share mo sa kanila ano ang nagiging benefit para sa iyo, paano sila mag-earn ng extra income."

A caveat

However, the industry has unfortunately earned for itself a reputation for being a source of dishonest practices.
"People still associate this industry with scams but the truth is that most of the scams that hit the Philippines in the past 10 years involved money investments and not the sale of consumable products," defends Gomez.
Gomez concedes, however, that there are those who make staggering claims, ones that are too good to be true.
"Unfounded and exaggerated health and income claims also damage the industry because these make health and medical practitioners resistant to health products. DSAP is involved in educating the public on the legitimate ways to do business in the Philippines. We are also in the forefront in the drafting of a Direct Selling Law in the Philippines," Gomez says.
As a reminder, Magno has this advice: "Choose one with a track record."

2.08.2010

love, love, love! v.2


"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

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Today, my parents celebrate their 28th wedding anniversary. 

I have a vague idea of how my parents met because until now, my mom is very evasive as to how they two fell in love with each other. As I reflected on their shared lives, I realized it does not matter. What matters is how they lived while for more than half of their marriage they were physically apart from each other. It was never perfect, nor was it near to being one. 

I've witnessed episodes of fighting and forgiving; cold treatments and hours of overseas calls; frustrations and acceptance; ticking off and enormous tests of patience; giving, taking, and giving back; hardships, perseverance, and victories. It went up and sometimes it slides down. They would fall out of love, then fall in again.

Yet through it all, I knew that love abounds. It may come from one or both of them at a given time but I am more certain that a God with overflowing Love supplies the love they need to see the marriage through. This love kept them together despite the distance. It impelled them to forgive despite the hurts. It gave them eyes to see beyond the wrinkles and widening hips. It transformed each of them into beauty. God's love kept on burning for them to share the warmth of their own love. God's love surely perfected their love for each other.

Twenty-eight years may have passed, but the celebration continues. From today until forever I pray that the Spirit of God would rest upon them to continue pruning them until they reach the perfection of God's divine plan for their lives. For now, I seek for God's mercy and graces to fall upon them: that they may remain faithful to each other and to the vows they exchanged; that they may fulfill they're roles as partners; Most importantly, may love always win, always reign. 

2.07.2010

love, love, love! v.1

Although, I am not really a fan of Valentine's day, I am sort of joining the bandwagon in sharing my thoughts, experiences and reflections on love. Let us all enjoy this special day, but most importantly, let's learn to share love everyday. 

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"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear"- 1 John 4:18 


There was a chapter in my life that I was in deep desolation. I was searching for answers to  the questions that swirl in my head. My past was catching up on me then. I was insecure, uncertain and fears crept in my heart. I felt lost. I felt disconnected inside. I was a ball of darkness bouncing without direction in this tepid world. 

My heart seeks to be satisfied. I knew I had more than what I needed. Yet, it felt that there must be something that I am missing. Surely, there is something.  I cried to God in prayer, without really knowing what to ask for. Days passed. Weeks came. Months turned in and out. 
"When love takes you in, everything changes. A miracles starts with the beat of a heart. When love takes you home and says you belong here, the loneliness ends and a new life begins..."

Friends and family like angels flew to me, consoled me and accepted me for just who I have become. Initially, I did not heed, sometimes I'd even  deliberately run away or resist. Little by little, as their love for me trickled in my famished heart, I begin to open myself to healing and loving. 

It was then, I found another meaning of love: acceptance and forgiveness. I realized that in true love one need not pretend, instead one must just be humble enough to show his real self to the people who loves him. Love is the unveiling of self.  I learned that true love is felt only when the true selves are allowed to share that love. It  is definitely a risk, but a risk surely worth taking.

I now know that I am a different person not only because of the pains I went through, but because of the enormous love of the people around me. The more I take in love, the more that my fears start to dissipate, because I have nothing more to hide, nothing more to fear.  I felt secure in the fact that most people may not like me, but there are a handful that loves me. More importantly, I am confident that even these imperfect people fail in loving me, there is a God who loves me perfectly and faithfully, without conditions, without end. 


*** texts in italics is from the song, "When love takes you in" by Steven Curtis Chapman

1.27.2010

DO NOT ERASE

Working with kids is such an uber rewarding and adorable experience for me. They have their own way of making you feeling super special even if most of the time they drive you crazy (especially when they ask you questions or just talk to you ALL AT THE SAME TIME!) They are so magical, they can put you under a spell. ;)


I was rushing to class this afternoon. When I walked in, I saw this drawing on the board. Clara, one of the girls in the class, drew it for me. See, she even wrote: "DO NOT ERASE" As soon as the class was over, I took this picture and left the room without erasing it. ;)





Kids are soooo candid and so pure! I am loving CCD classes. (ooopppsss, am getting attached to the kids already. Hahahaha!)

1.26.2010

free trip to bora!

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- Three (3) Meals each day, Breakfast, Lunch & Dinner
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1.25.2010

Doctor speaks on how nutrition helped his kid

Dr. John Harold Ong speaks about how his daughter, Arielle, who was diagnosed with Severe Developmental Delay bordering on Global Mental Retardation got terrific results with Reliv Products.
I've seen this pretty girl and I am a believer! :)
Thanks Gelo for the video! :)




1.20.2010

after midterms




This nice and subtle happiness of reading, this joy not chilled by age, this polite and unpunished vice, this selfish, serene life-long intoxication.  ~Logan Pearsall Smith


- Thanks, Ted. =)

1.19.2010

ULTIMATE!



After years of ignoring a friend's invitation to play Ultimate, I finally gave in last night! (I learned last night that the game was called Ultimate and not Frisbee, which is brand name of the disc) It was beginners' night and of course, we were taught the basics of throwing and catching. I "played" three games (although technically, i just ran), but I did have fun. :) Am coming back next week for another two fun hours of running, passing, and catching. :)
I have no intentions of playing competitive yet, but I surely want to play and have fun. 

1.05.2010

21 Critical Life Lessons You Didn't Learn in School

This is a repost from my ever supportive mentor. 

Just thought of sharing this Food for thought I found at http://johnplaceonline.com...

If someone doesn’t take us aside and teach us a few things (assuming we’d listen) before we graduate high school, we are doomed to learn life’s hardest lessons in the real world beyond the classroom.

With that in mind, here are 21 non-academic lessons every person should know before he or she graduates high school; if you graduated long ago (as I did), this list represents all the things you wish you had been taught, yet had to learn (or are still learning) on your own.

Love and Relationships

1. Choosing a Mate: Your ability to select a suitable spouse will greatly influence your financial and emotional well-being, yet parents and teachers seldom mention it. A few common sense guidelines: pick someone who’s a joy to be around and who makes you happy; know the person well; ensure compatibility beyond the physical because beauty and youth are fleeting, while the mind and heart endure.

2. Evaluating Relationships: Given the tremendous importance of relationships, it’s surprising we receive so little instruction on how to evaluate, prune, and nurture them. Start by asking yourself whether each of your relationships drags you down or lifts you up. Surrounding yourself with positive relationships is half the battle.

3. Conversation: Successful relationships require solid communication: use body language, appropriate tone of voice, and eye contact; be friendly and considerate of alternative viewpoints; persuade gently; listen, listen, listen.

4. Handling Difficult People: An essential life skill, handling difficult people can be taught, but seldom is. I’ve written about this before, and there are several good books on the subject, including Robert Bramson’s Coping with Difficult People.

5. Networking: Ask for business cards, maintain a Rolodex (electronic or otherwise), and stay in touch with people who respect you. Association breeds opportunity, personally and professionally.

6. Compassion: We are born egocentric, but by the time we graduate high school, we should be capable of understanding, appreciating, and sympathizing with others. Compassion helps us understand our place in the world and ensures we are emotionally well rounded.

7. Teamwork: Work environments have gravitated toward small teams. Sports, team projects, and group goals are great ways to learn teamwork, but are seldom adequate. Evaluate interpersonal skills regularly; correct as needed.

8. Giving: As a child, I always thought the expression “it’s better to give than to receive” was trite and silly. As an adult, I recognize the expression’s value. Having the capacity to give means you possess; having the will to give means you want to make a difference; having the desire to give means you care.

Money Management

9. The Material Myth: Pursuing happiness by acquiring material things (granite countertops, plasma televisions, designer clothing) is like jogging to the grocery store on your treadmill: it’s not going to happen.

10. Saving: Keep 3 to 6 months salary in an emergency fund, in case you lose your job; use online calculators to determine the proper amount to save for retirement; keep money on hand for unexpected expenses, such as car and home repair.

11. Debt: Financial gurus suggest that total debt, excluding first mortgage, should not exceed 20% of take-home pay. This includes car payments, home equity loans, second mortgages, credit card debt, and so forth. Upper income consumers may be able to handle higher debt loads due to greater expendable income, while lower income consumers may be wise to carry less. And my number one rule of debt: credit cards should never be used as supplemental income.

12. Frugality: Live below your means. Look for bargains. Shop at discount stores. Clearly delineate needs (transportation) from wants (a big SUV). Feel free to indulge occasionally, but mind the consequences.

13. Debtor Responsibility: I believe every person who borrows money has a social, moral, and ethical responsibility to make payments on time and in the correct amount for the duration of the contract. Generally speaking, the credit bureaus agree.

Career

14. Passion: School sharpens skills, but seldom taps into your most powerful reserve of all: Passion. If you want to be happy at the top of Maslow’s pyramid, find a job you love.

15. Practicality: While you’re chasing self-actualization, paying bills remains important. Independent research using the Occupational Outlook Handbook or other resources can help you figure out how to make a living in whatever industry inspires you.

16. Politics of Advancement: Advancement in the working world often depends as much upon interpersonal skills as it does upon job skills. Persuasion, argument, and expectation setting are crucial.

17. Entrepreneurial: Unless you’re related to business owners or have learned about business ownership on your own, there’s a good chance that owning a business seems puzzling, daunting, and overwhelming. The fact that young people in a capitalistic society aren’t given the basic tools of ownership is unfortunate. Find a mentor. Attend a workshop. Read.

Personal Success

18. Positive Thinking: Attitude determines altitude. If you believe you can do it, most of the time, you really can.

19. Personal Accountability: Most success boils down to perseverance, determination, tenacity, and other products of personal accountability.

20. Setting and Achieving Goals: Goal setting, research, planing, commitment, and hard work are all required to reach any big, life-altering objective. In other words, all the schooling in the world won’t help you reach your dreams if you don’t take time to determine what you want and how to obtain it.

21. Health: Throughout my life, I’ve noticed that no single thing does as much to improve my outlook as getting healthy. Eat nutritious meals in proper portions. Drink plenty of water. Try to get 30 minutes of aerobic exercise daily (or at least every other day). Get plenty of sleep. High school health classes teach these concepts, but seldom make the connection between health and the rest of life; the connection is real. And it’s huge.

So there you have it: 21 lessons you can’t (or generally don’t) learn in school.

These lessons are not intended to insult teachers or schools, or to suggest curriculum. They are merely thought starters; something to think about regarding lessons learned through painful experience.

Life is an exploration, and maybe certain lessons must be experienced to be understood. Yet I wonder how much pain we could prevent if we taught life’s important lessons to our young people instead of relying on the real world to teach them for us.

1.01.2010

may the good Lord bless you

Today's First Reading is taken from the book of Deuteronomy. Such blessing was part of the Jewish blessings made by their priests, and was later adapted by the Catholic Bible. Something very timely for the start of a new year, as we invoke God's blessings. 


So I repeat the blessing and pass it on: 


"The LORD bless you and keep you! The LORD let his face shine upon you, and be gracious to you! The LORD look upon you kindly and give you peace! So shall they invoke my name upon the Israelites, and I will bless them." (Numbers 6:24-26)


A Spirit-filled New Year to everybody! :)

12.28.2009

12.22.2009

my bunch of presents




More than the carols, the lights and the cool breeze, these people make the season more special. The laughter and the friendship will never be comparable. These guys are my presents all year long. :)

11.08.2009

date with bunso


Went to the third sesh of the Feast this afternoon. Had late bfast/lunch at Megamall. Strolled. Had coffee to cap the day.

Ulitin natin to Kath. :) It was super fun. Alabyu. Hugs.

10.26.2009

a strong sunshine is coming out

I would like to share today's reflection on Didache (A Catholic Reflection Guide published by Shepherds Voice Publication). It was written by George Gabriel, who also happened to be part of the singles ministry I am with now. It somehow described how I am feeling, especially now that I just finished a battery of tests for my (hopefully) last semester in law school. The following text is be the complete reflection (highlight in purple mine):

NATURE
 
… if only we suffer with him so that we may also be glorified with him. – Romans 8:17
 
I like what my friend Dinah once told me. “I woke up to the rain but then when I saw that it stopped and it became really foggy, I knew we’d have good weather,” she said. “Usually when it gets really foggy in the morning, to the point of zero visibility, strong sunshine comes after that. Don’t know if there is a scientific explanation but it’s always been like that here.” She’s based in New Zealand.
She knew, for sure, that good weather would follow. Why? It’s nature. I love how God communicates His love for us through it — through the natural occurrences of life. There was a time when I was so heartbroken and depressed. My darkness had blocked out God’s light and I couldn’t see His purpose for allowing me to experience that situation. I didn’t want to wake up the next morning to the same pain. I didn’t see the point of living another day. But after that point of zero visibility, the sun came out. I made it through. The Lord healed me and raised me up from my suffering to experience His glory once again.
Scientific explanation?
God is faithful.
And we can depend on it… because it’s His nature. George Gabriel
 
REFLECTION:
Just because the sun isn’t shining doesn’t mean it’s not there.
 
In the midst of the storm, I will be still and know You are God.

How comforting and assuring that after the rain, when all around you becomes foggy, the sun will surely be peeking out. After last night's examination in Civil Law Review 2, I knew the rain stopped, but a huge area of fog enveloped me. A tinge of doubt seeped into my heart. Would God allow me to graduate? 

Amid the voices that I hear inside my head, my soul rested on the truth that God is faithful and He makes all things work for those who love Him. My heart knows that God never fails His children. For whatever His answer will be, I know that it'll be for the best. All I need to do now is rest in His love and cast all my cares on Him. 

9.22.2009

something every woman should know


" I prefer to regard a dessert as I would imagine the perfect woman: subtle, a little bittersweet, not blowsy and extrovert. Delicately made up, not highly rouged. Holding back, not exposing everything and, of course, with a flavor that lasts. " Graham Kerr

***Saw this quote in the menu/photobook of Cocktales. Surprisingly, it was Nikko (Kath's friend and that guy who made my Student General poster back in UST) was the one who made the designs/logo/over-all appearance of the kiosk and paraphernalia. Good job! :)

9.21.2009

something every woman should know

I prefer to regard a dessert as I would imagine the perfect woman: subtle, a little bittersweet, not blowsy and extrovert. Delicately made up, not highly rouged. Holding back, not exposing everything and, of course, with a flavor that lasts. ~Graham Kerr

***Saw this quote in the menu/photobook of Cocktales. Surprisingly, it was Nikko (Kath's friend and that guy who made my Student General poster back in UST) was the one who made the designs/logo/over-all appearance of the kiosk and paraphernalia. Good job! :)

8.30.2009

One big THANK YOU.

I just turned twenty-something last Saturday, and up to now I am very much grateful. I knew that day how much the Lord loves me through the people who made it extra special.

I appreciate all those you greeted me through SMS and FB wall. People whom I haven't heard from in months remembered and I really, really appreciated that. Although, I had class in the morning (to which I arrived late because prayers are already being said), I was happy to spend half of my day with Fr. Jocis and the rest of the AMOE volunteers. My classmates gave me little presents, some brought in food for us to share. I love the cake! :) Am happy they loved the food I brought also.

After class, I immediately went straight to Megatent in Ortigas for SE6 Reunion. Funny thing though, the theme the class chose was children's birthday party. We had the works--balloons, party hats, children's songs, loads of games and children's party food! I remembered as I child I always wished for balloons during parties. I was happy spending the other half of the day to my Single's family. They gave me a huge birthday card and lots of blessings.
I just have to leave early because Zeny was demanding I'd meet her. So, off I went.

Zeny told me we'll see a movie and eat dinner. Ok, I said, still quite clueless of who will be joining us. At around, almost 8 in the evening, she picked me from home. (with Kathleen). She drove to her condo. Still puzzled why we have to go there because, I thought if we will see a movie, we might miss even the last full show. Nevertheless, I kept quiet and stopped fretting in my head. I felt that having two of my "sisters" around is much more fun than movie or whatever. As Kathleen was telling her stories and I was intently listening while we are entering Zen' unit, I was really surprised to see Roan, Sheldon, Mik, and Gen as the lights were turned on. They prepared a little feast for us to share! As if to top the ice cream with cherry, I received the a gift I secretly asked God days before: A bouquet of flowers! I was utterly speechless and I even caught my self jumping! We had simple food and I had to blow another candle on a cake. It's another cranium night. Fr. Deng called and made the surprise more fun. I had to go home at 4am.


Surely, my birthday was fabulous! It was filled with much love from the people very dear to me. I remember asking myself, what good must I have done to have deserved such shower of love. Then, I was sure it was grace--something freely given; something not worked for. Perhaps, I am now ready to receive undeserved love. I do not refuse nor resist. I just opened my arms and accepted what was given to me for I knew immediately that it was Jesus who was showing me how much He loves me, through this people whom I share my love for Him.

To my friends, thank you for allowing yourselves to be God's conduit of sweetest blessings. More than the gifts and the surprises (which I appreciate a lot), you are my presents wrapped neatly in different shapes and sizes. :) Pray with me that we'll share more of God's goodness as I walk through another chapter of my life.

8.21.2009

a letter from daddy

As if our tribute for our dear President Cory is not enough, I would like to share this letter which Ninoy wrote for Ballsy--the eldest of the Aquino siblings. Among all the five siblings, Ballsy was the one who certainly captured my admiration during the telecasts of the wake and burial of the last President. I remember telling my sister that she resembles Cory very much, from her demeanor even to the way she dresses. The following letter was sent to me through email by a friend and it certain filled my eyes with tears.

August 18, 1973

Fort Bonifacio
Makati, Rizal


Ms. Maria Elena C. Aquino

25 Times St. Quezon City


My dearest Ballsy,


I write you this letter with tears in my eyes and as if steel fingers are crushing my heart because I wanted so much to be with you as you celebrate your legal emancipation. Now that you have come of age, my love, a voice tells me that I am no longer young and suddenly, I feel old.

An old poet gave this advice very long ago “when you are sad, remember the roses will bloom in December.” I want to send you bouquet of roses, big red roses from my dreamland garden. Unfortunately for the present, my roses are not in bloom, in fact they have dropped all their petals and only the thorns are left to keep me company. I do think it is fitting to send you a thicket of thorns on this memorable day!

I am very proud of you because you have inherited all the best traits of your mother. You are sensible, responsible, even-tempered and sincere with the least pretenses and affection which vehemently detest in a woman. I am sure like your mother, you will possess that rare brand of silent courage and that combination of fidelity and fortitude that will be the life vest of your man in the tragic moments of his life.

During my lonely hours of solitary confinement in Fort Magsaysay, Laur, Nueva Ecija last March and April with nothing else to do but pray and daydream, with only my fond memories to keep me company, I planned a weekend barrio fiesta for you in Tarlac for your 18th birthday. I fooled myself into believing that my ordeal would end with the fiscal year. I planned to invite all your classmates and friends and their families for the weekends.


The schedule called for an early departure by bus from Manila and the first stop will be Concepcion, where lunch will be served by the pool. And after lunch, you were to visit the Santa Rita Elementary School to distribute cookies and ice cream to the children of that public school where you were first enrolled.


I guess sheer nostalgia prompted me to include Santa Rita. We were only three then: Mommie, you and I. Those were the days of happy memories little responsibilities, tremendous freedom, a great future ahead and capped by a fulfillment of love. You are the first fruit of our union, the first proof of our love and the first seal of our affections

From Concepcion we were to proceed to Luisita for the barrio fiesta. I intended to invite a friend who could roast an entire cow succulently. Swimming, pelota, dancing and eating would have been the order of the day.

Sunday morning was reserved for a trip around the Hacienda and the mill and maybe golf for some of the parents and later a picnic-lunch on Uncle Tony’s Island. Return to Manila after lunch. I am afraid this will have to remain as one of the many dreams I had in Laur.

Our future has suddenly become uncertain and our fate unknown. I am even now beginning to doubt whether I’ll ever be able to return to you and the family. Hence, I would like to ask you these special favors.
Love your mother, whose love for you, you will never be able to match. She is not the greatest mother in the world, she is your sincerest friend.

Take care of your younger sisters and brother and lavish them with the love and care I would like to continue giving them but am unable to do so. Help Noy-noy along and pray hard that he will grow to be a real, responsible man who in later years will protect you all. You are the model for your three younger sisters. Your responsibility is therefore great. Please endeavor to live up to our highest expectations. Be more tolerant to Pinky, more accessible to Viel, our little genius-princess, and more charitable to Krissy, our baby doll, and make up for my neglect.

Finally, forgive me, my love, for not having been an ideal, good and thoughtful father to you all as I pursued public office. I had hopes and high resolve of making up, but I am afraid my destiny will not oblige.


I seal this letter with a drop of tear and a prayer in my heart, that somehow, somewhere we shall meet again and I will finally be able to make up for all my lapses, in the kingdom where justice reigns supreme and love is eternal.

I love you,
Dad